How To Improve Your Emotional Intelligence

Karl Bimshas
4 min readDec 8, 2022

Having control over your emotions is a desirable leadership trait. Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand, recognize, and manage your emotions and the emotions of others. Individuals with high emotional intelligence tend to be more effective in their leadership roles. While many tools help you understand your emotional capacity, one discipline enables you to confront and process the things whirling around in your head.

Therapeutic writing, also known as journaling or expressive writing, is a form of self-expression that involves using written language to explore your thoughts, feelings, and experiences. Journaling is not bound to the domain of the private diary of a twelve-year-old. Proactive and deliberate expressive writing has mental and physical health benefits, including reduced stress and anxiety, improved mood, and increased self-awareness.

One significant benefit of therapeutic writing is its ability to help you better understand your emotions. You can gain great insight by taking the time to freely write about your experiences and feelings, knowing that what you put down on paper will never be shared with others. While this is not a substitute for professional therapy or medical treatment, it can be a valuable tool for self-exploration and emotional healing. It helps you better understand your thoughts and feelings and develop coping strategies to manage difficult emotions and experiences. This is helpful for busy professionals who may not have the time, energy, or inclination to engage in more traditional forms of therapy.

This type of writing can be an effective tool for developing your emotional intelligence. By recognizing and managing your emotions, you become self-aware and better equipped to handle difficult situations as they arise in your personal and professional life. Emotional intelligence allows leaders to build strong, positive relationships with their team members, make effective decisions, and handle challenging situations with grace and confidence.

Regardless of your current leadership role, incorporating therapeutic writing into your routine helps you become successful and fulfilled in several ways.

  1. You gain a better understanding of your emotions.
  2. It provides a private space to express your emotions, thoughts, and feelings without fear of outside judgment or criticism — a key benefit if you are uncomfortable discussing your feelings with others.
  3. You learn to become more self-aware and better equipped to handle difficult situations in your personal and professional life.
  4. It can improve your mental and physical health, reduce stress and anxiety, and improve your mood.

One easy way to get started, particularly if you hate the idea of facing a blank page, is with The Disposable Journal, a booklet-sized journal with a week’s worth of daily prompts designed for you to take on your biggest challenges.

This unique journal isn’t for writers to capture great prose. It’s for busy professionals who want to regain control of their emotions.

I’ve been using this system on and off as life’s dramas have unfolded, and it seldom takes a whole week to get me back on track.

Regardless of your opinion toward journaling, it is one of the fastest ways to hone your emotional intelligence, which is essential for busy professionals who want to manage better and lead well.

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When Was The Last Time You Thought?

Not dwelling, regretting, wishing, or worrying, but honest-to-goodness, calorie-burning, serious thinking.

Not scenario planning and what-iffing, not endless rumination. Not meditation or mindfulness either, but critical, logical thinking.

Try active thinking and steer yourself back on course. Pick the direction you want to go, and THINK about how you will get there.

Will you travel alone or with others?

Is this a secret, or do you need to broadcast your plans for greater support?

Do you have the right provisions and skills, or do you need to learn or hire along the way?

Is your attitude in check, your appearance appropriate to the task, and your approach aligned with your goal?

Are you acting on purpose or by habit?

What’s important to you? You know what it is because it fluttered across your mind. Capture it and give it thoughtful attention.

Thought is the nourishment your ideas need to grow. Start feeding them.

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Karl Bimshas

Boston-bred and California-chilled Leadership Adviser | Writer | Podcast Host who helps busy professionals who want to manage better and lead well.